Indian Matchmaking — When does a marriage begin to become itself?

“We did it!” My friend Geet and I.
Indian Matchmaking is best left to its own devices

“You have to examine the structure of your marriage,” she said to me.

“It’s not about my husband,” I said. “He is not even here. It’s me, I am unable to cope. I feel so confused.”

“Confusion is good,” she had said. “It’s like a fog, stopping you from choosing a path that will lead nowhere. Stop where you are. Perhaps you need to change the design of your life.”

Put the women and the children in the centre of the family circle

Put the women and the children in the centre of the family circle, I will say. Their presence and their needs have been marginalised for too long. This is the root cause of mental illness, of childhood trauma, of loneliness and isolation within our most intimate spaces. It locks us into the cycle of domination and coercion, as men and women bec­ome victims and perpetrators, turn by turn.

Immortal For A Moment

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